Deeper lesbian intimacy that feels joyful instead of terrifying.

Trauma Informed Somatic Sex Coaching based in Denver, Colorado

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  • You’ve spend countless hours unpacking your trauma, shame, and religious conditioning in therapy, trying breathing techniques to deal with triggers, and going down reddit rabbit holes at 2am for little nuggets of advice and tips about intimacy. And it’s all helped, to a point. But when the moment comes, sex and intimacy still feels overwhelming.

    You’re not broken- there’s just one piece that gets overlooked:

    Rewiring intimacy blocking patterns in your nervous system in ways that are gentle yet effective.

    This is the work I offer.

I’m Danie Bergstrom

Queer Somatic Sexologist and Educator supporting lesbians, women and afab folks with sexual trauma, religious shame, and inclusive pleasure education through body based, experiential coaching.

I believe your body already knows how to heal and feel good- it’s just about accessing these abilities beneath the layers of trauma, shame and conditioning keeping you disconnected. That’s what I call becoming feral.

But this process doesn’t involve rehashing your worst moments, enduring sex or overwhelming your nervous system. With my Feral Connection Method, healing and pleasure get to co-exist.

The Feral Connection Method

1. Relaxation

Feel comfortable in your body using the Body Trust Process to build more safety, presence and openness so you less intimated and more curious to start this sexual healing journey.

2. Desire

Learn to express your authentic sexual self without shame so you can reliably turn yourself on without judgement whenever you want

3.Confidence

Identify and talk about what you like with clarity so you can get what you want and become an amazing lover to your partner(s) with the help of the Expansive Communication Framework.

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“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been. I also learned quite a bit about boundaries, and that its ok to stand up for myself in other relationships in my life.” -M

Deeper Connection with The Feral Effect

Learn the exact body-based frameworks my clients use to turn self-awareness into approachable sexual healing in the limited podcast series.

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“The support and safeness you were able to create in our sessions unlocked something in me that was still locked up. I feel so proud, so accomplished, so free and vital and strong. I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.” -Z

Curious but a little nervous?

Your next steps are simple

  1. CONNECT

    You’ll answer a few questions and schedule a connection call so we can get to know each other and I can understand what type of support you’re looking for.

  2. RECEIVE YOUR INVITATION

    If I think we’d be a great fit to work together, we’ll go over details of your own immersion and create a plan to reach your intimacy goals.

  3. ENJOY THE SEX AND INTIMACY OF YOUR WILDEST DREAMS

    You’ll build and refine intimacy skills that will change the way you relate to yourself and partner(s) forever.

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Connection and pleasure are waiting for you on the other side <3

“You were so welcoming and put me at ease immediately. I really cannot believe how vulnerable I was able to be with you, because I just felt so deeply that you were safe. I really learned a lot.” - A

PODCAST

Sapphic Sexology

A show just for us that explores sapphic dynamics + the nuances of sexual healing and intimacy without therapy speak.

“This show is so underrated!!!”

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