Feel the closeness you’ve been craving in and out of the bedroom

For self ware sapphics who have done the healing, yet intimacy feels disconnected. You’re not alone. The Feral Connection Method helps you stop over thinking and start working with your body to uncover your natural instincts for desire, pleasure, and connection.

You’ve already done so much healing.

On your journey to embracing your queerness and finding self-acceptance, you’ve already done more inner work than most.

You know your trauma.
You understand your triggers.
You can regulate your nervous system.

And yet… when it comes to intimacy, something still feels out of reach.

Does this sound familiar?

  • Your body tenses up when they touch your leg

  • Your libido is inconsistent and you don’t understand why

  • You’re so used to following a heteronormative script for sex that it’s hard to separate what you want from what you’re “supposed” to do

  • You feel that pit of shame in your stomach for what turns you on

  • You battle with the idea of being ‘queer enough’ so much that it tanks your sexual confidence

  • You struggle to initiate sex because your desire feels like its predatory

  • Your body feels numb and like its for others’ consumption, not something that belongs to you

  • You can communicate well about everything… except sex and intimacy.

You’re not broken. You’re just in a body that learned how to survive- not how to enjoy.

As queer women and afab folks, many of us inherit a history of disconnection from our bodies and desires due to
societal pressures to conform, religious dogma, layers of shame and trauma.

And most healing stops at safety.
But intimacy requires more.

The truth is…

Deeper connection doesn’t come from endless healing quests and just feeling “safe.”
It comes from remembering your natural instincts — the ones that already know how to feel pleasure, desire, aliveness, and closeness.

Your body knows the way.
It’s just buried under trauma and conditioning that taught you to numb out and play small.

But it doesn’t have to stay this way.

The Feral Connection Method

The Feral Connection Method helps you move beyond “safe” to sensual so you can enjoy deeply connected and pleasurable intimacy.

  • Reclaim your untamed, unbothered intimacy instincts

  • Reconnect with your sexual and emotional power

  • Transform intimacy from struggle into a dance of connection and deep pleasure

It’s time to become feral in your intimacy — to reconnect with your wild, free, flirty self that you thought trauma took away.

Phase 1: Relaxation

Feel comfortable in your body by learning to read your nervous system's cues so you can create internal safety whether you’re feeling rage, arousal, grief, or desire. Using the Body Trust Process, you’ll begin to release patterns of shutdown and start to feel at home in your body, maybe for the first time.

Phase 2: Desire

Boost your libido and nurture your erotic self by bringing pleasure back into every day moments. Explore your kinks, boundaries, attachment, and sensuality with curiosity, not shame. Map your unique Pleasure Pathway to reliably turn yourself on emotionally and physically whenever you want.

Phase 3: Confidence

Express your desires and emotions boldly by practicing real intimacy with me in real time. Using my Expansive Communication Framework, you’ll build embodied skills—flirting, boundary-setting, repair conversations, and asking for what you want—with honesty and curiosity so you stop overthinking and start enjoying.

Imagine intimacy without that invisible wall

Imagine sitting across from someone you love and actually feeling your shoulders drop.
Warmth spreading in your belly when they reach for your back.
Meeting their eyes without hesitation.

That’s the intimacy your body already knows how to create.
All we’re doing is waking it back up so you can feel it, ask for it, and take it in.

If you’ve done the talking and still feel stuck, the 1:1 FERAL Immersion is what you’re looking for

finally experience intimacy beyond analysis

Not quite ready?

Deeper Connection & Pleasure After Trauma

Without pulling a hammy in a strange position or sounding like a therapy speak robot. 🤖

You don’t need more practices-

you need to understand how your body has been trying to protect you from the deep intimacy you’re longing for.

That’s what this decoder is for.

Uncover your body’s survival strategies and map out the path back to erotic freedom and real intimacy.

Free, quick, and insightful

Meet Your Guide

I’m Danie, Certified Somatic Sexologist, Queer Pleasure Advocate, and Trauma Specialist

After coming out in a straight marriage and a lifetime of (messily) navigating intimacy with complex trauma, I created the Feral Connection Method for those who dare to embrace taboos and heal past pain to access deeper pleasure and connection.

My work is for sapphics who are tired of trying to “regulate” all the time and ready to feel alive in their intimacy. I help you move beyond safe to sensual—at the pace of your body.

I believe connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want.

no question too awkward…

  • “Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).

    It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.

    Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”

    If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.

  • Nope! You’re in the right place if you’re a queer woman, femme, or afab human who has healed enough, but your bodies still feels hesitant around sex, intimacy, or erotic connection.

  • In our connection, I listening without judgment to what’s being said, and notice what your body is communicating something different than your words.

    You will learn how to listen to your body- meaning what triggers you, what helps you feel safe, and what turns you on.

    With this information, we step into real-time intimacy exercises—like boundary setting, flirting, touch, and repair conversations—with no pressure or performance.

    The goal isn’t to get anything “right” - its about building confidence in your ability to create fulfilling intimacy in your relationship(s).

    For full details, check out the retreat brochure.

  • Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I specialize in exploring power dynamics.

  • Nope! Sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself which unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life.

    It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.

  • Yes! No shame or judgment here. I aim to create a space where you feel safe to be yourself and share about your relationship(s) authentically.

  • That makes sense!

    You’re not alone. Feeling nervous is part of the territory. We start soft, slow, and anchored around what feels safe in your body. Over time, your system learns: erotic safety is possible.

  • Therapy gives insight. My work reawakens the body’s felt capacity for pleasure, desire, and erotic instinct.

    We don’t just unpack patterns—we practice rewiring them through practice and embodied presence, together.

    Also, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.

  • No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth and is intended to help you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.

The next steps to your intimacy transformation:

1. Apply.

We’ll spend 20 minutes mapping out what intimacy looks like for you.

2. Share your hopes and dreams.

I'll listen with curiosity, and we’ll build from there.

3. Receive your Immersion invitation.

If I truly believe our goals are aligned after our call, you’ll be invited into a FERAL immersion. Either way, you’ll get clarity on how to connect deeper.

Connection and pleasure are waiting for you on the other side <3